Assertion

If I am not for myself, who will be for me?

If I am for myself only, what am I?

If not now, When?


                        -Hillel, Ancient Jewish Sage

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Self protection

3 Approaches to Relationships

Open, honest communication. Learning how to relax and reduce anxiety. Getting more of your needs met. Learning social skills that form closer interpersonal relationships. Being able to verbally and non-verbally communicate your positive and negative feelings, thoughts and emotions without experiencing undue amounts of anxiety or guilt and without violating the dignity of others. Taking responsibility for what happens to you in life. Making more decisions and free choices. Being a friend to yourself and maintaining your own dignity and self-respect. Recognizing that you have certain rights and a value system that need not be sacrificed. Being able to protect yourself from being victimized and taken advantage of by others. Discriminating as to when assertive behaviors may lead to negative as well as positive consequences. 


Essentially, this is what we believe assertion training is all about. It is not aggression training whereby you transgress upon the rights and dignity of another person. It is not a means of manipulating or deceiving others in order to just get ahead. On the contrary, assertion training, as we see it rests upon a foundation of respect. 


RESPECT FOR YOURSELF, RESPECT FOR OTHERS AND RESPECT FOR YOUR OWN VALUE SYSTEM.

                                                                 -Sherwin Cotler and Julio Guerra,

                                                                                          clinical psychologists



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